What’s My Ethos?

I believe that every individual has their own unique internal blueprint that they use to help them understand themselves, others, experiences, and the world around them. This blueprint started to develop from the moment we were born, and has been shaped by the countless influences in our life and experiences we’ve had. We use it (often unconsciously) to help us determine what’s safe or unsafe, and to inform our decision making, actions, and behaviours. What we don’t realize is that often this blueprint has outdated information and is stuck in the past—however, we continue to unconsciously use that outdated information to inform our emotional reactions, feelings, behaviours and actions in the present day.

In therapy, we’ll look to uncover the unconscious patterns and strategies within your blueprint that are outdated that might be negatively impacting you. Once these are understood (or, if you enter therapy already having clarity of them), we then process and integrate these outdated patterns in an embodied way—embodied integration is critical to allow space for new ways of being to emerge that feel more aligned with who you are today and what you want for yourself, your relationships, and your life at large. Instead of learning new strategies to cope with challenging experiences, therapy with me is about learning to become free from what is holding you back. We learn how to connect to yourself in a new way—one where you create a felt sense of safety from the inside out. This sense of internal security supports the conditions for true, long-term and sustainable change/growth—based on what you uniquely desire for yourself.

While my therapeutic work is integrative, I work predominantly from an attachment, relational, and trauma-informed perspective. My approach draws primarily from NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) which is a multifaceted approach to healing that addresses the mind, body and relational dynamics (with the self and others). I am also IFS-informed and incorporate parts-work and inner-child work within my approach. As a yoga and meditation teacher, my ethos is also rooted in embodiment, and a belief in the power of mindfulness and compassion.